In memory of Sheryl Christian......
" It is always a Good Day when Dr. Sugar visits"
Sheryl Christian
A Cancer patient goes through an emotional roller coaster every moment of every day. No matter how strong the individual, facing death is one of the most difficult things to experience either as a patient or witnessed by a loved one.
Cancer does not discriminate between young, independent, pure, and kind or otherwise. It comes suddenly and throws one’s life into turmoil and with it questions’ one’s faith and shakes the fundamental root of one’s being.
Cancer does not recognise race, colour, gender, young or old. All palliative patients have the same Fear and have the same Need when facing death.
Every moment becomes more precious, every breath is a privilege and being with family and a loved one is as essential as life itself. Because family is the only thing a Cancer patient has left! It is that love that keeps them going, it is the warmth of their hand, and their loving embrace that tells them "I am here for you "and "you are not alone!"
In 2009 when Sheryl was diagnosed with Cancer, our biggest fear and concern amongst other things was how do we manage it with Sheryl living alone in the United States, and me living here in Vancouver, Canada? How do I leave my 10 year old son behind?
Sheryl was a strong individual and being deaf never impaired her independence and ability to live a normal life. But when Cancer came knocking; it all changed.
We both needed each other and were desperately looking for help.
We were over the moon when Dr. Sugar accepted Sheryl as his patient. It was Dr. Sugar and his team of nurses and volunteers who dedicated their expertise and valuable time and community’s resources to help Sheryl be in Canada. Dr. Sugar’s unequivocal love and dedication gave Sheryl the gift to live the remaining time of her life with family and die with dignity.
Dr. Sugar made it possible!
It didn’t matter what time of day or night we needed him, he was there for us.
Whether it was medicine, guidance or comforting us, Dr. Sugar was always there.
Sheryl even managed to teach Dr. Sugar few words in Sign Language. Beginning with his name .
And that is why whether Sheryl was hurting and in pain, or emotionally spent, my darling Sheryl always said:
"It is always a good day when Dr. Sugar is here!"
Alexandra Christian
